The world teaches us that perfect is the way to be and perfect is who we are. When it comes to insecurities many are not willing to accept who they truly are because it goes against the illusion that has been embedded in us since we were a child. “ That image is everything”.
Insecurities comes from uncertainty, lack appreciation and love for self. It is so easy to fall in the arms of insecurity when our heart is broken. It is also easy to fall in the arms of insecurity when we are filled with bitterness, hate, jealousy, anger, embarrassment, and an unforgiving heart.
We are taught that those six negative attributes will give us power and authority among others and bring power to self. In reality, those attributes are meant to kill, destroy, and steal from our purpose.
Many believe in their mind that we shouldn’t let others get away with the hurt that others caused us, so we take it in our hands to sabotage others to destroy who they are. When we do that we are also opening the door for negative energy to continue.
Insecurity allows us to fall into negative traps and situations that reveal how we truly feel about self. I am guilty of not wanting to admit I even had insecurities because of my high function level of being a perfectionist.
I had a image to upkeep and having insecurities was not one of them. I was a young black woman working hard not to become a statistic among society, so I decided to chase titles and honors. Chasing titles and honors only revealed how unloved, unfulfilled, and unworthy I truly felt about self.
I was an individual that battled insecurity much of my life, which was showcase through my ego. I had so much pain within that my ego protected the rest of the purification I had left within, so I thought. I came up with fives ways on how holding on to insecurities can obliterate the soul.
1.Allows You Idolize Others As Your God
Acknowledging that you are spiritual being before flesh, allows you to recognize that much of our voids and yearnings that we expect to get from others cannot be fulfill are only meant for the Lord to handle.
I use to have a bad habit of holding others to the expectation that only God can fulfill. I was yearning for his unconditional love so much that I placed unrealistic expectations on family members, friends, spouse, and my work environment.
The interesting thing is that growing up as a child, there were idolize expectations that were placed on me as a child from my parents. The older I got, I carried those same learned expectations in my intimate relationship with my spouse.
The higher my expectations exceeded the deeper the pain expanded from disappointment. Disappointing lead to discouragement, which lead to a bigger giant to fight. Later I learned
Psalms 62:5 CEV, “Only God gives inward peace, and I depend on him.”
2.Insecurity Allows You To Chase Things That Will Not Fulfill The Soul
When pain and suffering arrives in your life, we always look for ways to self medicate. There are some individuals who chose drugs,alcohol, food,clothes, work, and etc. we all have vices that keep us high for temporary amount of time.
When the high runs out then we are left chasing the same substance or different substance to sustain that temporarily relief. Its only a matter of time when you began to recognize that the substance that you are chasing is doing more harm than good.
Psalms 16:3-6CEV states, “Your people are wonderful, and they make me happy, worshipers of other gods will have much sorrow. I refuse to offer sacrifices of blood to those gods or worship in their name. You, Lord, are all I want! You are my choice, and you keep me safe. You make my life pleasant, and my future is bright.”
3.You Chose Lust Over Love to Boost Self-image
When insecurity is shaded in our hearts, we yearn more for self fulfillment than liberation of self. Love is liberating and lust is self-fulfillment that leads to pleasing our own selfish desires. Love is selfless and lust is selfish.
Desiring something or someone in all to boost our self- image or ego is considered lust. The world teaches us that lust is true power because we don’t have to worry about getting our heart broken. When we are filled with insecurity we gain the perspective that we are not worthy of true love. Love sets the soul free and lust keeps the soul bounded.
Not filling worthy of love allows us to subject ourselves to people and situations that prove to be less than the pureness that lies within.
John 1 2:15-17 CEV states, Don’t love the worldly or anything that belongs to the world. If you love the world, you cannot love the Father. Our foolish pride comes from this world, and so do our selfish desires and our desire to have everything we see. None of this comes from the Father. The world and the desires it causes are disappearing. But if we obey God, we will live forever.”
4.You Lose Value In The True Essences Of Life
It’s so easy to lose the true essences of life when insecurity contaminates your heart. You began to lose sight of what is true power. The true essence of life is love, peace, hope, faith, and compassion.
These five attributes allows us to embrace the bad with the good. Those who have healed understand the true meaning of experiencing pain and learning to appreciate concept of all five attributes. You will began to thank God that those five attributes exist on earth.
5.Allows You Lose Sight of Your Purpose and Worth In Life
Anything less than those five attributes listed above and not being obedient to God is what allows you lose sight of your purpose in life.
I am guilty of falling short many times in my life because I allowed my insecurities to self-sabotage the promise God has on my life.
There were many times in life, where I didn’t feel I was worthy of having anything God said I could. I would allow my insecurities to sabotage God’s promise on my life.
I love the insight I have gained on my spiritual walk when I found God’s true meaning of his grace and mercy on my life. The problems in my life has humbled me so much that I had no choice but to change in order see God’s promise manifest on earth .
Allowing change to occur in my life, allowed me to face all my insecurities and readdress my insecurities with positive affirmations upon my life. It is not easy but I know it will be worth it!
1 Peter 3:10 CEV states, “Do you really love life? Do you want to be happy? Then stop saying cruel things and quit telling lies. Give up your evil ways and do right, as you find and follow the road to peace. The Lord watches over everyone who obeys him, and he listens to their prayers. But he opposes everyone who does evil.”
Chose today not to continue to allow your heart to be dismantled with insecurities that you self-sabotage the promises God has for your life. Family and friends may have let you down with their promises but God will still keep his no matter what.
Take a stand not for others but for yourself to love self more than you did yesterday. Choosing to love self drowns out the insecurity because you are liberating yourself to embrace your flaws and all. In the words of Maya Angelou, “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” God is Love and Love is life.