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You Deserve The Hope You Yearn For


There is nothing more frighten than facing a difficult situation in life with no sense of direction, guidance, and instructions. God knew what he was doing when he created me! God created me so I would always depend on his direction, guidance, and instruction no matter what situation was. The problem from past experiences was that I would relie deeply on others to direct, guide, and instruct me into the path I was desired to go. When I was looking for others to help me, I would  either get bamboozled, mislead, or misguided.

It took countless situations and circumstances for me to understand that it was not meant for me to be guided, lead, and instructed by others. It was time for me to allow Jesus to lead me to places I could never dream of. Thinking about this was a bit frighten for me because I have always presented myself to be self-sufficient, where I thought I could only rely on my own thoughts and wisdom. Not knowing that I was being feed by my own ego; but I was also not allowing the Holy Spirit to guide me in all areas in my life.

Facing countless situations, where my time was wasted or I spent most of my time focusing on too many things at once. I began to lose hope in life and present situations because things in my life appeared to be too hard for me to handle. I lost many battles with quitting things in life too soon such as personal romantic relationships, business ideas, and networking opportunities. I was tired of taking L’s (losses) in life, where I knew my life was not set up for me to follow my own path, but to finally time for me to allow God to guide, lead and instruct me all areas of my life.  Here are five ways I gained hope in life:


It’s a simple concept that many tend to take for granted including myself. The world is full of hopeless situations, but if you don’t remember anything from this blog post. Remember all you must do is believe. Believe in the Higher One, the One who created you and believe that your life serves a great purpose. There should be a sense of relieve within to know that you were created for a time such as now. I call my higher one God or Jesus, but I feel everyone has a different interpretation of who their higher power is.

2.Set Your Intentions for the Situation or Circumstance

You will go through many different and difficult situations in life, but you must always make sure that your intentions correspond to the outcome you aspire to have. Your intentions create your reality and it manifest the vision you dream to have. The soul knows what it wants and needs.  You must be still enough to allow your soul to connect with your inner-knowing to live out your desire outcome. Trust your current situation or circumstance may be overbearing for another person, but this different situation or circumstance was designed for your life to help you grow and develop into your higher self. You deserve to raise not sink!

 3.Raise with Faith

One of my beloved bible verses that helped me get through some very hard situations is  Hebrews 11:1,“Faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you do not see. “Faith corresponds with hope. Your faith can be size of a mustard seed and God will still extend his Grace to you.  Have faith in God that your struggle is shaping you into the person, you prayed God to create you to be. Have faith that you will find another job that better suits who you are.

Have faith that you find true love in your life because you are worthy of having all you deserve to have plus some.  Have faith today that God has not forsaken you in this heart-aching situation. Have faith that you were born to be a champion, who wins every battle that heads your way.

4.Reorganize and Restructure Your Plan

When stress began to raise above your head with your family, financials, and job, it may be a great opportunity to start restructuring and reorganizing your life. Your life now may have come into a season, where you can no longer complete a task in the same way and get a different outcome. Our lives are meant to be versatile. When we are open to versatile our creativity within began to develop. You were born to fly not sunk. Begin to create some structure and order into your life, so that things in your life will began to go more smoothly. You deserve peace. Creating order, structure, and organization will help you create the peace you needed within.

 5.Pray and Push Through

I had to save the best for last because I wanted to emphasis the importance of praying and pushing your way through. Hope requires prayer and pushing your way through even when the situation looks daunting. We deserve to see what life can offer us. There have been countless times in my life, where life looked very daunting. I had no choice but to pray my way through because I had no one around who could understand me. I refused to give up. Instead of staying low; I decided to raise above and pray to God.

I knew he was my only option, who could help me see my way through. I guarantee God will help you push and see your way through also. I don’t care what anyone has told you, but God is a great investment to consider. You will always profit from the decisions and actions from him because he holds the greatest interest of life.

Whether you believe it or not. It takes believing in yourself to know that there is a bigger calling and purpose upon your life; it takes your intentions to set the tone of your situation; it takes Faith to sustain your belief system of reaching for those things that are before us; It is reorganization and restructuring to help you prepare for the new that wants to blossom in your life; and finally, it takes prayer and pushing through to help you to become open to the miracles that God believe you deserve in your life.

Be purposeful today and allow the spirit of Hope to guide, direct, and instruct you in all areas of your life. In the words of Hebrew 10:23 CEV, “WE MUST HOLD TIGHTLY TO THE HOPE WE SAY IS OURS. AFTER ALL, WE CAN TRUST THE ONE WHO MADE THE AGREEMENT WITH US. Hope is meant for our keepsake nothing less.

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Healing Effectively: Changing The Narrative You Tell Yourself

   The entire process of healing can be long and painful, but healing is necessary to produce fruit within the soul. A lot of people would rather avoid  painful situations and circumstances in life because of the connection or attachment that they carry to the pain. 

     Sometimes something can hurt so badly that you began to attach the pain with fear of lack and loss. We all know we gain something from pain, but there also apart of us that dies. It seems like we focus so much on the fear of lack and loss but we never get a chance to embrace what we gain.  (more…)

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Taking Ownship of The SHADOW Within

I believe the hardest things I ever had to face was the shadow that lies within me. The shadow represents the dark area within us that lacks light! So, you know I use to have a issue with being a perfectionist, which meant I never saw my flaws. 

I definitely saw the flaws in others, but not myself! In fact, in many cases in life I refused to do so, and I grew comfortable not wanting to focus on what I lacked in life. When I was exposed to my flaws; I would disguised them pride, ego, lies, and with defensiveness. 

  I could not imagine facing my flaws so I would hide my body with baggy clothes, closed my mouth to the truth, became blind to what’s was in front of me, detached myself from emotions, and distance myself from giving affection to those I truly loved the most! 

I was starting to head towards a journey filled with numbness,detachment,and low self-esteem. I told myself that this was who I would be to protect myself from the fear of the unknown. The funny thing about it, I grew accustomed to those characteristics that I began to attached them to my identity. 

       When God delivered me it was a long process for me to detach from those features. It was hard because I found out I had another attribute hiding deep down within me, which was control. Control was the root of all my issues in life. (more…)

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The 5 Essences of Being More Spiritual


Spirituality is a broad concept that many are unable to grasp. People have different spiritual experiences and journeys. Where everyone’s spiritual journey is different, the essences of becoming more spiritual happens to be the same. Many confuse the concept of religion with spirituality. Both are two different concepts and have two different meanings.

        Religion is a systematic or institutionalize system that support the same attitude, beliefs, and practices. Spirituality is the cosmic essences that supports and promotes the intellect of manifestation, incarnation, embodiment, and personification while recognizing who the Alpha and Omega is of this world (God).  

  Religion usually require you to gravitate to the opinions and perspective of others builded on fears and inequities. You can become religious with anything in life, which means that you are choosing to shape and set the foundation of your life on a body of beliefs.

For example, Football can be looked upon as religion because of the body of beliefs many hold for the sport; where many chose not to support Colin Kaepernick when he decided to protest against racial injustice in America by kneeling with his head down for the anthem.  (more…)

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Do Your Best: Effort Counts!

As a child, I would receive a report card from school that would give my actual grade and a grade for my effort. Most of the time effort went unrecognized because it was either lower or higher than the actual grade I learned. When my effort grade was lower than my actual grade I felt that my effort was not worthy enough and waste of time. When my effort grade was higher I did not pay it  any attention nor did others because the outcome was positive. So, I learned as a child that my effort did not count, which was a lie. The true is in both circumstances my effort did count. It was learning and exciting experience. I gained experience at the end of the day.

       How many times have you criticized yourself harshly about a new experience, goal, or outcome? So, much that you welcomed doubt to come into your thoughts tearing your dreams away.  I have been there countless times. In fact, it was a real struggle for myself to detach from being a perfectionist and not focusing on the outcome of a situation. 

   I would carry perceived notions and perspectives about how a situation would or should be; and was left with disappointment once the outcome did not show up the way I imagined. Can you imagine how many times I stressed myself over things that did not matter? 

   I thought my perspective would be the only thing to lead to good things and joy because I did not trust anyone. Anxiety began to creep in your mind when we are facing new, challenging, and vulnerable circumstances. It’s out of our norm, so the first thing is the panic because it feels comfortable to do. We preceive these circumstance as danger, but that is not true.

    To avoid anxiety, fear, doubt, and worry from rushing in your thoughts. You have to learn to be okay with your efforts and intentions in life. While, our intentions may not always produce what we expect. We have to learn to trust ourselves and our hearts and recognize that our heart was in the right place at the time. The heart and intentions should align with soul of the true you and the Holy Spirit! With those two forces working together you won’t have to worry about making a mistake that will cost your livelihood or your family’s.  Here are 4 ways to embrace your efforts in life: 

1.God Will Take Care It! 

    Learning to do your best and give every situation all you have; and allow God to do the rest is vital! I cannot tell you how many times, I have tried to be so self-sufficient. Trying to prove to myself and others that I was worthy of having anything in general that I would lose focus on what matter. It was not how the outcome turned out,  but what did I learn from the journey and the outcome. Did I allow myself to be present in those moments?

1 Corinthians 2:4-5 CEV, “When I talked with you or preached, I didn’t try to prove anything by sounding wise. I simply let God’s Spirit show his power. That way you would have faith because of God’s power and not because of human wisdom.”

2.If God Accepts Your Efforts Than That’s All That Matters

    I cannot believe I am saying this, but who care what other people thing.  Right? It’s a cliché quote, but it definitely holds truth. We should not care what other people think especially if God gave us the okay to do whatever we need to do. A lot of times, God will give you the okay to do something that society or family does not agree with! God tends to do many unorthodox things to reveal to others his presence! We have to be open and receptive to receive different. Different is great–it promotes growth. 

Colossians 2:6-7 CEV, “You have accepted Christ Jesus as your Lord. Now keep on following him. Plant your roots in Christ and let him be the foundation for your life. Be strong in your faith, just as you were taught. And be grateful.”  

Yes, I would be agree definitely be grateful. Gratification changes things in your life starting with your perspective.

3.Embrace Your Mistakes

     Mistakes are meant to help us grow. Mistakes are either an action or judgement that turned out wrong. The best way to accept it is to recognize that it’s ok to be wrong. In fact, it was probably best to be wrong to learn from the experience and teach others. 

   Don’t worry the situation is not all about you. You were probably the most courageous person, who has what it takes to embrace the mistake you made. People may not always forgive, Thank God he does. God is all that matters in the end. 

  Matthew 5:7-12 CEV, “God blesses those people who are merciful. They will be treated with mercy! God blesses those people whose hearts are pure. They will see him! God blesses those people who make peace. They will be called his children! God blesses those people who are treated badly for doing right. They belong to the kingdom of heaven. God will bless you when people insult you, mistreat you, and tell all kinds of evil lies about you because of me. Be happy and excited! You will have a great reward in heaven. People did these same things to the prophets who lived long ago.”

4.God will Keep His Promise

        Here on earth we are so use to everyone breaking promises. The interesting things I always find out is that we hold others to the promises that broke with us then we reflect on God. I was gulity of doing this. 

   For some reason it hard to wrap my mind around simplistic concept that could only be achieved by God. It hard because I was thinking from brokenness that shaped my perspective. What I learn about embracing my efforts was this:

   God was not going to change his mind about the visions he allowed me to see and the dreams that were embedded in my heart. God was not changing his mind which meant whatever he promised you will come in his timing not yours. The promise will come in the way he created not your way despite my mistakes. 

Judges 2:1 CEV,”The Lord ‘s angel went from Gilgal to Bochim and gave the Israelites this message from the Lord: I promised your ancestors that I would give this land to their families, and I brought your people here from Egypt. We made an agreement that I promised never to break,”

   You must learn to be okay with your efforts. The way I think of it! He is allowing us to live a life free of anxiety, fear, doubt, and worry! Being perfect is a false illusion that does not exist. Don’t lost the precious things in life over false illusion. Its not worth your time or energy. The interesting things is that God needs your efforts because at the end of the day it counts!

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5 Ways To Deal With Difficult People

With all of the drama occurring in the White House, drama in our neighborhoods, drama even in our households, and our workplace.       Dealing with difficult people happens to be a reoccurring situation that happens on a daily basis. Everyone is stressed and overwhelmed. You end up dealing others people’s issues as they are yelling, screaming, cursing, and displaying rudeness.

So coming across a difficult person may be quite common than unusual, which is the sad part. I have dealt with many circumstances with dealing with difficult people in my life, in which I constantly try to raise above the mess they carry around. Raising above also protects yourself from the energy that others display and stop it from transferring over to you. Here are five ways to deal with difficult people: (more…)

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The Confessions Of A Gosipping Queen

   I would use my mouth as a weapon to get my way and hurt others when they hurt me! It was something I grew up seeing. I seen that it worked, so I tried it. For me, it worked for so long than trouble began to follow. 

   When I was really wounded and insecure. I would find joy in talking about others. I guess, you could say that I was glad to find out what other people’s flaws were to distract myself from my own.  I didn’t want no one to hear about my flaws because I grew up being reminded of them constantly.  (more…)

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If You Love Her, Treat Her Well: Self-Care

Self-care corresponds to self-love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV reveals the true definition of love, which is where true self-care stems from.  God’s Love makes us well-rounded individuals, which allows us to live with integrity. If you love her treat her well sounds like a easy slogan or concept to grasp; in reality it can be a hard concept to grasp. It’s one of those concepts that’s easier said than done. 

  When you love who you are, you feel more willing to treat yourself well. Not to just treat yourself to material things, but you should only consider material possessions as rewards for your growth not to feel a void within. I like to define self-care as taking care of self with the goal of establishing true fulfillment of self. Many people talk about self-care, but there are different ways to practice self-care making sure you are well balanced.  There are five ways to practice self-care emotionally,  mentally, spiritually, physically, and financially.  

It’s apart the American culture to promote and collect material possessions because we are business oriented country; so we are taught only from a visional perspective that gaining more material possessions is the true definition of to taking care of ourselves. 

     We have many people walking around not knowing the true way to practice self-care well-roundedly.  Self-care was something I struggled with for a while also because I had a lot of the bad habits and routines that did not serve me well.  (more…)

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4 Ways To Change Successfully

Change is vital in life. The older we get the more it seems harder to embrace change. The definition of change is an act of becoming someone different.  Now embracing the uniqueness in others is now becoming a trend among our society. It’s good being different from others . I mean even 2 Chainz the Rapper embraced the concept of being different by making a song called I’m Different. 

      If we can began to embrace the concept of being different as society then why is it still hard to embrace change? In hindsight, change should be something we should be able to flow with in life. We should be as excited about change because it allows us to walk in newness of life; which means our past is literally gone. It’s gone until we make a decision to not allow it back in our life. I hope you decide not to do so.  (more…)

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Going Through The Spiritual Recovery Stage of Life

When you think of the recovery stage in life, you may associated with business, rehabilitation physically and mentally, and family circumstances. The first thing that pops in my head about recovery is drug recovery.  The reason being is due to me being surrounded by that population in my career field and having love ones go through it. 

   Little did I know, I was going through my recovery stage myself with past heart issues! I had to acknowledged that my trauma occurred ,but it was time to recovery from them. Recovery is a stage to help individuals return to their natural state of health mentally or physically before the dysfunction occurred. For those who have had surgical procedures, pain is apart of the entire process. 

   There is pain in the beginning of the surgery, which is the reason for procedure. There is also pain in the recovery stage after the surgery, which fixes the dysfunction that needed to be corrected. 

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